Ex-BF (30’s M) keeps asking for my “help” (30’s F) to unlock him and talk to him.

TLDR: I blocked him because he keeps asking me to talk to him about how things ended (because “he needs it and it will help him”) and I’ve said no multiple times before. Background: We were LDR, Germany he/USA. USA me for more than 18 months. He broke up with me >2 years ago (on New Year’s Eve 2020 no less) but a few months later we stopped talking regularly due to the pandemic. It was a strange unrelated relationship due to the pandemic isolation. At times it seemed like we were getting back together so I did all the heavy lifting… Called, texted, asked to meet (I even offered to pay for us to meet in Mexico) everything to make it work and kept the hope. . After a while it became clear that he wasn’t willing to do anything and more than 1 year ago I asked him outright if he still loved me and he said “I don’t know”. I asked him if he minded if he started dating and he said “no, I just don’t want to hear about it”. This was the end for me. We still chatted from time to time, but I tried to move on with my life and started dating. I met someone lovely and when it became clear that he was the one and that he didn’t want to see anyone else, I informed the German that he was seeing someone exclusively. I told him that we could cut off communication altogether or try to be friends. He chose to keep in touch. This was April of last year. After a few months of not contacting him I guess he realized he was serious and then the messages and emails started wanting to dissect what happened and explain that he realized his mistakes and where they came from. . At some point he proposed to me and said we could have kids right away. He was upset, and occasionally angry and disappointed that it was too late to realize what we had. But he was also happy with my relationship and didn’t want to participate in the conversation anymore. After initial discussions, I asked her to leave him alone or I couldn’t be his friend. He would stop for a while and then suddenly start wanting to dissect what happened again. I feel like it had been discussed ad nauseam and it was over. Now: About a week ago (after more than 3 months of polite and very occasional messages) he launched again. This time instead of contrite and conciliatory he was accusatory. He was completely done. So I said, “It’s okay for you to blame me for everything. You don’t accept any personal responsibility for your actions. It’s okay. But I don’t have to listen to it. We’re done. We can’t even keep in touch since you lack enough self-control.” I blocked him from everything but he can still leave me voicemails and has left 30 messages since the 10th. Lots of crying and haggling. I don’t want to do anything, but I don’t want to cause unnecessary pain to someone I care about. I do not know what to do.

TLDR: I blocked him because he keeps asking me to talk to him about how things ended (because “he needs it and it will help him”) and I’ve said no multiple times before. Background: We were LDR, Germany he/USA. USA me for more than 18 months. He broke up with me >2 years ago (on New Year’s Eve 2020 no less) but a few months later we stopped talking regularly due to the pandemic. It was a strange unrelated relationship due to the pandemic isolation. At times it seemed like we were getting back together so I did all the heavy lifting… Called, texted, asked to meet (I even offered to pay for us to meet in Mexico) everything to make it work and kept the hope. . After a while it became clear that he wasn’t willing to do anything and more than 1 year ago I asked him outright if he still loved me and he said “I don’t know”. I asked him if he minded if he started dating and he said “no, I just don’t want to hear about it”. This was the end for me. We still chatted from time to time, but I tried to move on with my life and started dating. I met someone lovely and when it became clear that he was the one and that he didn’t want to see anyone else, I informed the German that he was seeing someone exclusively. I told him that we could cut off communication altogether or try to be friends. He chose to keep in touch. This was April of last year. After a few months of not contacting him I guess he realized he was serious and then the messages and emails started wanting to dissect what happened and explain that he realized his mistakes and where they came from. . At some point he proposed to me and said we could have kids right away. He was upset, and occasionally angry and disappointed that it was too late to realize what we had. But he was also happy with my relationship and didn’t want to participate in the conversation anymore. After initial discussions, I asked her to leave him alone or I couldn’t be his friend. He would stop for a while and then suddenly start wanting to dissect what happened again. I feel like it had been discussed ad nauseam and it was over. Now: About a week ago (after more than 3 months of polite and very occasional messages) he launched again. This time instead of contrite and conciliatory he was accusatory. He was completely done. So I said, “It’s okay for you to blame me for everything. You don’t accept any personal responsibility for your actions. It’s okay. But I don’t have to listen to it. We’re done. We can’t even keep in touch since you lack enough self-control.” I blocked him from everything but he can still leave me voicemails and has left 30 messages since the 10th. Lots of crying and haggling. I don’t want to do anything, but I don’t want to cause unnecessary pain to someone I care about. I do not know what to do.

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