How to stop feeling bad about leaving a toxic relationship?

So I (22f) recently ended all contact with my ex-boyfriend (25m). We had been separated for the last six months, but we were still friends, but the truth is that we were still close. Honestly, it felt like we were still together, without the title. But basically, I decided to stop talking to him completely because the relationship was really toxic. Only to the point where things were wrong all the time. There were non-stop arguments and I felt that it affected my mental health. To tell you the truth, I felt like the worst version of myself with him. I will also add that he is currently going through a bout of depression. That’s why he broke up with me in the first place. During our initial friendship, I helped him take medication, but he stopped taking it during the time he broke up with me. He refused to go back on them until he felt like it. I did everything in my power to help him because I know how depression can bring you down. But the toxic part of the relationship became too much. He was really controlling and I felt like he was always walking on eggshells. He was also becoming suicidal. Eventually he started threatening to hurt himself whenever we argued or when I wanted to distance myself a bit. He got to the point where he self-harmed because he didn’t get his way during an argument. This is what really made me want to end contact. I tried to help him but he became too emotionally abusive. Last week I broke down and finally told my therapist everything and with his guidance stopped all contact with him. However, I did not block his number because I am afraid that he will get hurt or react badly. I just ignore his calls and don’t answer him. He’s not taking it well, obviously. He calls and texts. He says that he is sorry for everything. He says that he will never stop taking his medication ever again. He says that he feels lost without me. How would you do anything to talk to me. I know he’s just saying what I want to hear. I know he won’t fix things. I know I don’t want to be treated like I was treated, but it’s really hard for me not to feel bad for him. I’m imagining how sad he feels. He sends me a message saying that he is crying all the time. How lonely he is. I know he has abandonment issues and now I feel like I’m just adding to them. I feel so bad that he has no one to talk to right now. I feel so bad when he says he misses me. The worst thing I feel is how I promised him that he would be his friend forever, but I couldn’t keep that promise. I know that cutting it was the right thing to do, but that doesn’t take away the guilt and sadness I feel. I try not to think about how I feel about this, but it sucks to feel like you lost someone. I was always talking to or with him for the last year and a half, so it’s hard to get used to that. I feel so stupid for missing out on the good things when there were so many bad things. I just want to know how to stop feeling so guilty when I know it was the right thing to do. Do you also want to know how to stop feeling so silly about missing out on the good times? TLDR: I ended contact with a toxic/emotionally abusive ex and I want to know how to stop feeling guilty for leaving him, but also feeling silly for missing out on the good times.

So I (22f) recently ended all contact with my ex-boyfriend (25m). We had been separated for the last six months, but we were still friends, but the truth is that we were still close. Honestly, it felt like we were still together, without the title. But basically, I decided to stop talking to him completely because the relationship was really toxic. Only to the point where things were wrong all the time. There were non-stop arguments and I felt that it affected my mental health. To tell you the truth, I felt like the worst version of myself with him. I will also add that he is currently going through a bout of depression. That’s why he broke up with me in the first place. During our initial friendship, I helped him take medication, but he stopped taking it during the time he broke up with me. He refused to go back on them until he felt like it. I did everything in my power to help him because I know how depression can bring you down. But the toxic part of the relationship became too much. He was really controlling and I felt like he was always walking on eggshells. He was also becoming suicidal. Eventually he started threatening to hurt himself whenever we argued or when I wanted to distance myself a bit. He got to the point where he self-harmed because he didn’t get his way during an argument. This is what really made me want to end contact. I tried to help him but he became too emotionally abusive. Last week I broke down and finally told my therapist everything and with his guidance stopped all contact with him. However, I did not block his number because I am afraid that he will get hurt or react badly. I just ignore his calls and don’t answer him. He’s not taking it well, obviously. He calls and texts. He says that he is sorry for everything. He says that he will never stop taking his medication ever again. He says that he feels lost without me. How would you do anything to talk to me. I know he’s just saying what I want to hear. I know he won’t fix things. I know I don’t want to be treated like I was treated, but it’s really hard for me not to feel bad for him. I’m imagining how sad he feels. He sends me a message saying that he is crying all the time. How lonely he is. I know he has abandonment issues and now I feel like I’m just adding to them. I feel so bad that he has no one to talk to right now. I feel so bad when he says he misses me. The worst thing I feel is how I promised him that he would be his friend forever, but I couldn’t keep that promise. I know that cutting it was the right thing to do, but that doesn’t take away the guilt and sadness I feel. I try not to think about how I feel about this, but it sucks to feel like you lost someone. I was always talking to or with him for the last year and a half, so it’s hard to get used to that. I feel so stupid for missing out on the good things when there were so many bad things. I just want to know how to stop feeling so guilty when I know it was the right thing to do. Do you also want to know how to stop feeling so silly about missing out on the good times? TLDR: I ended contact with a toxic/emotionally abusive ex and I want to know how to stop feeling guilty for leaving him, but also feeling silly for missing out on the good times.

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